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How to Be Happy: What to Do When You Dwell in the Grey

How to Be Happy

She had two white plastic lawn chairs, a large steel pot, one mattress wet from the rain, an orange bucket, and one remarkable painting. I was nervous. I’d never been in someone’s home where I couldn’t speak the language. My friend, who was semi-fluent, sat and spoke with her. As they conversed, my eyes darted around her home.  My eyes fell to the large gaps in the floor where water, mice and any other sort of varmint could run freely in and out. There were missing cinder blocks where the tin ceiling attached to the walls allowing rain and wind to blow in. Several of her children sat politely on the wet mattress on the floor. They were sporting their bright yellow Vacation Bible School t-shirts they had worn faithfully for three days in a row. The orange bucket sat in the corner. I knew the bucket was used for bathing, as I had seen several children being scrubbed down, underwear and all, while standing inside a small plastic bucket of their own.

In stark contrast, above the white lawn chair, hung one remarkable painting. It was at odds with the rest of the scene. Brilliant colors, fine details, an expression of class and beauty.

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How to Be Happy-Are Other People More Successful Than You?

“The grass isn’t greener on the other side. The grass is greener where you water it.” 

Are other people more successful than you? When you look on social media, do other people’s lives appear better than yours? Do people seem more successful, beautiful, happier, healthier or prosperous than you?

I heard a fabulous quote recently by Neil Barringham. “The grass isn’t greener on the other side. The grass is greener where you water it.” I LOVE this quote!!

This quote, “The grass isn’t greener on the other side, the grass is greener where you water it”, has the ability to help you live a happier life in 3 ways:

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Top 19 Confusing “Motivational” Quotes / Tweets to Mess With Your Followers

 

Seems everyone has an Inspirational / Motivational quote they plaster all over their social media. Have you ever read a motivational quote that made absolutely no sense? 

I had to get in on the fun.

Here’s 19 “Motivational” / “Inspirational” quotes you can use just to mess with your followers: …(Why 19? Just to mess with those of you who need it to be 20…)

 

 

 

“LOVE is a 4 letter word that spells ‘LOVE'”

 

“My Darkest Hour is When it Dawned on Me I Had Been Kept in the Dark.”

 

“Tomorrow is another day. Different than today. Tomorrow will become today and today yesterday…don’t worry about that part.”

 

“Live everyday as if it were your last-because-if I had it my way it would be.”

 

“Failing forward gives you momentum-even though it’s face down.”

 

“Whoever laughs at you when you fall, is probable a PE teacher.”

“A journey of 1000 miles begins with a single tweet or snapchat post.”

 

 

“Dance as if everyone’s drinking.”

 

Enjoy the little things in life because, if you’re a millennial, it’s probably all you can afford.”

“Perfection is only a path mediocre people take. Perfect people don’t need a path.”

 

“Be yourself…only better.”

 

“Success does not come from winning. It comes from really good P.R.”

 

“Keep your chin up, your head held high, and your best foot forward. It makes you look better in your pics.”

“Happiness comes when your automatic deposit is no longer pending.”

 

“Life is like football. It requires hard work, sacrifice, dedication, and an occasional $20 million contract.”

“Only losers understand the true value of a win.”

 

“I have found if you genuinely love life-you’re a little off.”

 

“To live is to let go. So hold on tight to your dreams.”

 

“Beware of a man who is charming. Charm is spelled ‘C-Harm'”.

 

Stacy Pederson is a Colorado based Humorist and Funny Motivational Speaker who is incessantly insecure with a chronic Thai Food / Netflix binge habit.

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How to Be Happy: What Happiness Truly Is – WARNING – You’re Not Going to Like It

Stacy Pederson Funny Motivational Inspirational Speaker

What would it take to make you happy? For you to ultimately find true happiness? A million dollars? A different job? A skinnier body? A better spouse? Everyone to stop bothering you? (Which brings me back to a different job and a better spouse…)

 

Are you trapped into thinking your unhappiness is a direct result of your life being a struggle, a disappointment, a chaotic mess?

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Thanks to Daren Streblow for Having Me On His Comedy Show Again

 

Clean Comedy Show Daren Streblow

Thank you to Daren Streblow for having me on his comedy show again. It was a difficult, deep confession but I feel better now that it’s out. You can hear more by clicking the link below.

 

The Daren Streblow Comedy Show Mini-Cast 169: Bank, Stacy Pederson & Ken Davis

 

Stacy Pederson is a Colorado based Humorist and Funny Motivational Speaker who is incessantly insecure with a chronic Thai Food / Netflix binge habit.

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How to Write an Epic Blog Post in 7 Easy Steps + 10 More

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So you want to be a writer. Better yet a blogger. An EPIC blogger. Prose flowing means money growing. Here’s a simple 17 step plan millions of bloggers have used to write their first epic post:

  1. Spend anywhere from 1 hour to 10 years on developing the right kind of blog your passionate about. A topic that will stick with you like cellulite or your worse junior high memory.

 

  1. Make a decision to finally write your blog post. This usually happens “in the moment” after something disastrous in your life happens. A break up, job loss, 40th birthday…credit card statement comes due.

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How to Be Happy at Work- Eat a Peanut Butter and Jelly Sandwich

Peanut bHow to Be Happy at Workutter and jelly. It’s hard to imagine one without the other. Peanut butter alone between two pieces of bread. Jelly alone between two pieces of bread. Not delish. Together? FABULOUS!

It’s difficult to understand why two separate items from opposite ends of the spectrum could work so well together. Peanut butter: a root, under the ground, plain colored, in a shell. Jelly: made from colorful fruit, above ground, pretty and sweet.

What’s this have to do with happiness? Happiness and work.

The two seem polar opposite. One entails visions of flitting around in fields or lounging on a beach. The other entails the ugly, under the ground, boring, day-to-day grind. Don’t we work hard so that one day we won’t have to work hard, so that we can finally do what we want, so that we can finally be happy?

If you want to live a happy life you’re going to have to smash work and happiness together. On one end lies birth. The other end lies-death. All that life in the middle is an intermixed mess of work and your happiness.

Here’s What Work Does for You:

Flow factor. Here’ a fantastic Ted X talk on Happiness and “Flow”. goo.gl/p4V1MI

I’ll give you the movie trailer version. Scene zooms in. There’s you at work immersed in a task. You’re in the height of problem solving and progress. You suddenly look up dazed and confused because you’ve completely lost track of time. That’s flow. Well…that’s the highlight of flow. (You’ll have to watch the full length version if you want to know more.) Flow makes you happy. Rated “E” for everyone. Available for you to stream immediately.

Belonging. One good co-worker, a client that you love, a boss that you can help. We are social beings. YES-there are those you’d be fine NEVER SEEING AGAIN. However, perusing around at home day in and day out working alone does not make you happy. Don’t argue with me if you don’t like that last sentence. Argue with science.

Sense of Purpose. We all need a sense of purpose or long-term goal that is not “me” oriented. You are a part of something bigger at work. And NO it’s not just about money. You are helping your company or organization contribute something that is needed in the market place. If it wasn’t, you wouldn’t be in business. Think bigger, though. People need their jobs. Your co-workers have families. They need food in their stomach, gas in their tank and a roof over their head. By you doing your job well you are contributing to their lives by helping ensure you all have a place to work at tomorrow.

Security. Unfortunately, as much as my artist heart hates to admit it, we all need money to survive. I’ve not been able to work on a few different occasions and, at one point, lost everything. It’s not fun. It’s not fun being in a place where you are unable to pay your rent or buy your kid’s shoes. The security of knowing you will have a paycheck GREATLY contributes to your overall well-being and ultimate happiness.

The happiest people I’ve known have always worked in one way or another. My Dad is a great example. He retired three years early, taking a smaller retirement, so he could work. He volunteers all of his time building or repairing homes for people who need it. Flood damage, tornadoes, or just a family who’s trying to build a home on a minimal budget. My Dad lives simple, in a very modest home he built himself, on a very limited budget, and is one of the happiest people I’ve ever known. The only time I’ve seen him miserable in the last 15 years is when he had cancer and wasn’t able to “work”.

If you want happiness, think of a PB & J. Makes no sense why it’s so good. A good life requires work.  A happy life requires work.

One last thought, for those who think PB & J is not so great, it was once only enjoyed by the very wealthy and served at the finest restaurants.  If you lived a hundred years ago you’d really think this sandwich was something. Hope you enjoy one on your lunch hour today.

Stacy Pederson  is a Colorado based Humorist and Funny Motivational Speaker who is incessantly insecure with a chronic Thai Food / Netflix binge habit.

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Why Bill Murray & Paul Schaffer’s New Song “Happy Street” Can Literally Make You Happier

Bill Murray and Paul Schaffer’s newly released video, “Happy Street” has a simple recipe for happiness. Want to be happier? Do what Bill Murray says!

Here are a few lyrics that can literally make you happier:

Paul Schaffer: “How are you doin?”

Bill: “Right now I’m just lovin’ the way that I’m walking, baby.”

Mindfulness. Bill’s statement on loving how he’s walking reveals he’s only thinking about the present moment. He’s not worried about what’s happening in the future, nor contemplating the past.

The definition of mindfulness is: “a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations, used as a therapeutic technique.”

In a 2013 Massachusetts General Hospital study, participants who practiced mindfulness experienced a significant reduction in anxiety. Other studies have shown mindfulness helps in reducing depression, improving focus, and reducing fatigue.

Want to feel better? Take a step outside and love the way you walk!

“Take a step outside”. Want to be happier? Once again, get off your rear and step outside. That’s all it takes. Nature amps up brain waves, gives you a nice dose of mood improving Vitamin D, and reduces stress.

“It’s so great to be alive”. Gratitude. Being thankful for the small-even the fact you are alive-can greatly improve your overall happiness. According to an article from Harvard https://goo.gl/ghHFNB: “In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.”

“Smiling at those you meet”. The literal act of smiling, whether you feel like it or not, is associated with greater happiness and reducing anxiety. Why? Smile lines around the eyes. The muscles around the eye trigger a change in brain activity that boosts mood.

AND my favorite: “When things ain’t cool, here’s my real simple rule. Why not just change your point of view?” The power of your perspective is mighty. The simple act of changing the way you view or approach life, or how you perceive a difficult situation, greatly determines your own personal happiness. Remember, your way of looking at life or a problem is not the only way. As my husband likes to say, “There’s a million ways up a mountain.” You may be right in certain things you observe and “feel” about life-but you’re way is not the definitive. If your perception is making you miserable-change it!

So, if you’re feeling blue-here’s what you do. Pick up a beat and listen to my new favorite song: “Happy Street”.

 

Stacy Pederson  is a Colorado based Humorist and Funny Motivational Speaker who is incessantly insecure with a chronic Thai Food / Netflix binge habit.

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How to Be Happy: Pain – The Key to Unlocking Your Happiness

How to Be Happy
The Key to Unlocking Your Happiness

Pain. We spend our lives consciously and subconsciously trying to avoid pain. As a comedian, why do I want to acknowledge pain? Humor is pain. It’s presenting a struggle or hurt you can relate to in a unique way. In the same regard, I’ve come to believe you cannot experience the true extent of joy without experiencing suffering first. Continue reading “How to Be Happy: Pain – The Key to Unlocking Your Happiness”

How to Be Happy – How to Overcome Difficult Circumstances

How to be Happy Stacy Pederson Overcoming Difficult Circumstances

I’m often asked to speak on “Overcoming”. What steps does one take to overcome a difficult or painful life altering circumstance? It’s simple:

You get up.

You just make a decision to get up. It’ll hurt-as in really hurt-but you choose to get up anyway.

If you can’t get up- rest a bit. Then in a day or two, you reach out to those around you. You let them prop you up until you have the strength to stand on your own. But YOU- GET- UP. When you fall back down-and you will-you make a choice to get up all over again.

It’s not fair that this thing-whatever it is-has become a part of your story. It’s not fair this thing has taken something from you. Your innocence. Your hopes. Your dreams. Your security. Broken your heart. Altered your future. But it did. And now-fair or not-you have to answer this question:

How are you going let it define you?

Bitter? Hard? Jaded? Defeated? The easy road that is well deserved. The road you have a right to take. You’ve earned it. The road that allows you to lie down because IT HURTS!

Or will you choose to get up, despite the pain, and take the hard road. The road you should’ve NEVER had to choose. The road that doesn’t allow you to have all of your questions answered first.  The road that requires toil, tears, sorrow, hard work and an uncertain place of arrival. The road that- with time- allows whatever this thing stole from you-that empty place that now exists-to be filled with a softer kind of stronger. Empathy. Compassion. Humility. Wisdom.

Which person do you want to be when it’s all said and done? Bitter or wise? Angry or Compassionate? Humble or Self Righteous in your pain? It’s up to you. Again-it’s not fair-but it is truly up to you. No one can decide what to do with your pain for you.

So-if you can. If you choose to:

-Get up when it hurts

-Get up when you’re afraid

-Get up when you’ve failed

-Get up when you’re embarrassed

-Get up when you have no hope

-Get up no matter how many times you’ve fallen before

-Just GET UP

My prayer for you, that just like a toddler learning how to walk, each time you rise, it’ll get a little easier. You’ll get a little stronger. When you fall and scrape your knee, you stay down for a bit, but you get back up. My hope for you is that someday you’ll be able to, not just walk, but run. You’ll be able to feel life again. The rhythm and the view will bring you comfort. You’ll never be the same, but you will be strong, steadfast and beautiful. Get up.

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