Because I Have it all Together, and Other Lies I Want You to Believe About Me

The Filtered Brand-When “Authenticity” isn’t Real

Does anyone else find it odd we now live in a society where people are praised for showing their true selves?

#nofilter #rawparenting #effyourbeautystandards #truth

 

Shouldn’t it be the other way around? Where being ourselves is normal and having the gall to pretend you’re something you’re not – shocking?

 

I’m not sure where the prison of perfection, or the fear of rejection started for me. I do know they are one and the same. One leads to the other and the other back to the start.

 

I’m in my 40’s now and people said when I reached my 40’s I would be happy. I would come to a place where I wouldn’t care what other people thought and would finally embrace my true self. But with today’s social climate, I find myself more self-conscious than any other time in my life.

 

If I’m not perfect in my parenting, marriage, business, body or life- I risk rejection. Rejection from social media comments, “pointer outers” (those that love to point out other people’s faults) or even risk my business since I’m my brand. Let me repeat that-I’m my brand. Herein lies the problem.

 

Because my business is me, I feel the need to use a “filter”. Filter my mouth, my opinions, my religious beliefs, my inadequacies, and of course my photos. Who wants to hire someone who sucks?

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A Boy – A Door – Fear – and a Future

Fear. We all have it. We all hate it. So how do we work through it?

Michael Wigge, a top Motivational Speaker, Influencer, and Author of several books including, “How to Travel the World for Free”, shares a portion of his “Challenger Mindset” in this TedX talk featured below.

I love Michael’s story. He’s a great guy who truly utilizes this valuable mindset to carve a life that is more purposeful, successful, and – most importantly- a life that is lived by his own terms.

Check out Michael’s TedX talk for a simple mindset strategy on dealing with fear below.

You can learn more about Michael at: https://my-challenge-coach.com/

Easy Questionnaire to Help You Find Your “Uniquity”

 

Are you A or B?

 

  1. Do you know who you are? Do you have a clear direction of where your life is headed? Do you wake up each morning knowing your life “plan” or “purpose”, which allows you to overcome difficult obstacles? Do you know what calms you down when you are stressed? Do you know what makes you happy?
  2. Do you feel clouded, confused, burnt out, or that you’re simply floating or surviving through life?

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How to Write Your Blog When You Don’t “Feel” Like It

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Let me know when you figure it out, because this blog posts shows I haven’t.

The End

Stacy Pederson is a funny motivational speaker…which is ironic when it comes to motivation. When Stacy’s not blogging, she can be found in Colorado overeating, sleeping and feeling guilty about all of it. You can learn more about her dysfunction at: StacyPederson.com.

19 Plagiarized #FunnyMemes to Make Your Day

Ok. So don’t be offended, but I don’t know who created these funny memes. I just know they made my day when I saw them. Now I’m hoping to make yours.

(If this happens to be one of your funny memes-sorry. Please put your creds in the comment section with proper link.)

I know, I know! “I shouldn’t post,” to all you rule followers who may be offended. But their freakin’ FUNNY! Imitation is the best form of flattery.

For Anyone Who’s Not Feeling Successful:

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Build a Speaking Business, Not Another Job

Speaking Speaker Speech CoachMany people dream of working for themselves, being their own boss, and having the freedom to do what they love.

What they don’t realize, though, is that there is a huge difference between building a speaking business and being self-employed.

Business owners scale their income. Self-employed people trade dollars for hours

Business owners leverage the skills and talents of others. Self-employed people rely only on their own skills.

Discouraged yet? Don’t be. Every business owner started out self-employed. Just don’t stay there.

These tips will help you build a sustainable business instead of just another job.

Don’t Try to Do It All Yourself

Building a sustainable business requires that you leverage the talents and time of others. While it might seem cost-effective to simply do everything yourself—especially in the start-up phase when you likely have more time than money—it’s a path to burnout and stress.

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What to Do if You’re About to Lose Everything

With over a 90% failure rate in business, it’s hard for me to believe there’s not a slew of people out there feeling desperate…and scared that they’re about to “lose everything”.

First, if you are one of them, I want to say that I am truly sorry you are going through this. It’s no fun. It hurts. It’s scary. BUT, my goal by the end of this article is to give you a little glimmer of hope.

I’ve lost it all. Well, almost. I’ve never lost my kids and for that I’m eternally grateful. I’ve lost my 1st marriage, my home, my job, my health, my ability to walk, my friends, and for a time-I felt like I lost my sanity.  Continue reading “What to Do if You’re About to Lose Everything”

How to Turn Your Dream of Becoming a Speaker into a Workable Plan

How to Turn Your Dream of Becoming a Speaker into a Workable Plan


As a coach, it can be difficult to watch the lack of progress of so many promising speakers. They’ve dreamed for so long about creating a solid, sustainable business, and yet, all they do is dream.

You know the people I’m talking about. They attend conferences, sign up for free webinars, buy paid training, and sometimes even work with a coach or two. And yet week after week, month after month, year after year, they fail to make any progress toward their dreams.

Are they just lazy? No. It’s something worse. They don’t know how to move from a dream to a plan and they’re stuck. I know because I have been there.

Start With the Long-Term

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Making the Most of Your Time: 5 Productivity Tips Top Professional Speakers Live By

It’s not enough to dream of success as a professional speaker. It’s not even enough to set goals.

The only way to truly achieve your dreams and build the business you’re meant to build is to sit down and just do it. And that sucks

And that’s where many of us…well, fail is a strong word. But it’s the doing that trips us up more times than not. As in me. I fall flat a lot when it comes to the doing.

We (as in I) overbook our calendars until today’s to-dos become next week’s past dues. We procrastinate on the things that are important while attending to things that are merely “nice to do.” And sometimes we simply take on too much—even when we know better.

The answer? Embrace these five productivity hacks that top professional speakers use to get more done in less time.

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Stop Being Your Own Worst Co-Worker/ Boss

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Have you ever worked with someone who consistently failed to complete her tasks for the week?

-She couldn’t find the time to get her email opt-in page completed?

-She was too busy to write the next chapter of her book?

-She was working too hard and completely forgot to put together her webinar presentation?

It wouldn’t take long before you sat her down for a serious talk about the future of your working relationship—and her business?

-Even worse- have you ever had a boss or co-worker who slept in and showed up shockingly late as if it were no big deal?

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