Because I Have it all Together, and Other Lies I Want You to Believe About Me

The Filtered Brand-When “Authenticity” isn’t Real

Does anyone else find it odd we now live in a society where people are praised for showing their true selves?

#nofilter #rawparenting #effyourbeautystandards #truth

 

Shouldn’t it be the other way around? Where being ourselves is normal and having the gall to pretend you’re something you’re not – shocking?

 

I’m not sure where the prison of perfection, or the fear of rejection started for me. I do know they are one and the same. One leads to the other and the other back to the start.

 

I’m in my 40’s now and people said when I reached my 40’s I would be happy. I would come to a place where I wouldn’t care what other people thought and would finally embrace my true self. But with today’s social climate, I find myself more self-conscious than any other time in my life.

 

If I’m not perfect in my parenting, marriage, business, body or life- I risk rejection. Rejection from social media comments, “pointer outers” (those that love to point out other people’s faults) or even risk my business since I’m my brand. Let me repeat that-I’m my brand. Herein lies the problem.

 

Because my business is me, I feel the need to use a “filter”. Filter my mouth, my opinions, my religious beliefs, my inadequacies, and of course my photos. Who wants to hire someone who sucks?

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A Boy – A Door – Fear – and a Future

Fear. We all have it. We all hate it. So how do we work through it?

Michael Wigge, a top Motivational Speaker, Influencer, and Author of several books including, “How to Travel the World for Free”, shares a portion of his “Challenger Mindset” in this TedX talk featured below.

I love Michael’s story. He’s a great guy who truly utilizes this valuable mindset to carve a life that is more purposeful, successful, and – most importantly- a life that is lived by his own terms.

Check out Michael’s TedX talk for a simple mindset strategy on dealing with fear below.

You can learn more about Michael at: https://my-challenge-coach.com/

Public Speaking – 7 Ways to Deal with Stage Fright

Stage fright sucks. I know because I have it. Despite having a degree in theatre, performing stand-up comedy and giving countless speeches in front of ultimately 1,000’s, that dreaded feeling of knots in my stomach before taking the stage, still occurs.

  1. Know What it is You’re Afraid of.

Being able to pin-point exactly what terrifies you, can help give you a game plan to combat stage fright.

So…what is it specifically that scares the snot out of you about speaking in front of an audience???

-Forgetting your lines?

-Falling off the stage?

-The simple act of people staring at you?

-Feeling vulnerable?

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Easy Questionnaire to Help You Find Your “Uniquity”

 

Are you A or B?

 

  1. Do you know who you are? Do you have a clear direction of where your life is headed? Do you wake up each morning knowing your life “plan” or “purpose”, which allows you to overcome difficult obstacles? Do you know what calms you down when you are stressed? Do you know what makes you happy?
  2. Do you feel clouded, confused, burnt out, or that you’re simply floating or surviving through life?

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The Art of the Speaker Soft Sell: How to Get the Click Without (Really) Asking for It

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We’ve all seen those old-style sales pages filled with yellow highlights and screaming red text and lots of “BUY NOW” buttons, and when we think of copywriting, that’s often what comes to mind. While that style of sales page can be effective, it’s not the only way to make sales.

 

In fact, by taking a more subtle approach, you might even find that you generate more interest—and potentially more sales.

Stories Sell

One effective way to entice readers to click through to your sales page is the same as when you are on stage- with stories.

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5 Huge Mistakes Professional Speakers Make on Stage from an Actor’s Perspective

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I stumbled into becoming a funny speaker by complete accident. I have learned A LOT along the way. What I learned-I actually already knew. Let me explain:

I have a degree in theatre. What I learned and even taught when it came to theatre/acting performance, audience, communication, messaging, etc., has translated perfectly to the speaking world. All the rules seem to hold true for either mode of communication-acting or speaking.

It’s taken making a whole lot of mistakes and performing a loooot of really tough gigs to finally embrace who I am. I’m a performer with a message.

 

I’ve done free speaking gigs, drove hours for almost no-paying gigs, done back alley gigs, comedy gigs, county fair gigs, festival gigs. My cars broke down. Someone slipped something in my drink the last comedy club I performed at. I’ve traveled 12 hours one way to have the company never pay me. Been snowed in, iced in, dust-stormed in. (I choked on-stage during the dust storm-literally. I coughed and gagged on the dirt so much, I had to walk off after only 8 minutes.) I’ve bombed on stage. I’ve killed it-and a whole lot of in-between.

Now that you know some of my creds-here’s some huge mistakes from an actor’s perspective, I see other speakers make on stage. I’ve done several of these myself.

 

  1. Not Thinking from the Audience’s Perspective

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How to Write Your Blog When You Don’t “Feel” Like It

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Let me know when you figure it out, because this blog posts shows I haven’t.

The End

Stacy Pederson is a funny motivational speaker…which is ironic when it comes to motivation. When Stacy’s not blogging, she can be found in Colorado overeating, sleeping and feeling guilty about all of it. You can learn more about her dysfunction at: StacyPederson.com.

Should Professional Speakers Speak for You for Free

Maybe.

If you’re looking for someone to fill a slot for your event, that has interesting content and can be delivered in a presentable way- that’s not too flashy, there are LOOOOTS of speakers out there. You know this, as you may have been hit up by a few…gajillion of them.

If you’re looking to up the game a little for your event, here’s a few ways you know whether or not you should pay.

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What to Do if You’re About to Lose Everything

With over a 90% failure rate in business, it’s hard for me to believe there’s not a slew of people out there feeling desperate…and scared that they’re about to “lose everything”.

First, if you are one of them, I want to say that I am truly sorry you are going through this. It’s no fun. It hurts. It’s scary. BUT, my goal by the end of this article is to give you a little glimmer of hope.

I’ve lost it all. Well, almost. I’ve never lost my kids and for that I’m eternally grateful. I’ve lost my 1st marriage, my home, my job, my health, my ability to walk, my friends, and for a time-I felt like I lost my sanity.  Continue reading “What to Do if You’re About to Lose Everything”