Because I Have it all Together, and Other Lies I Want You to Believe About Me

The Filtered Brand-When “Authenticity” isn’t Real

Does anyone else find it odd we now live in a society where people are praised for showing their true selves?

#nofilter #rawparenting #effyourbeautystandards #truth

 

Shouldn’t it be the other way around? Where being ourselves is normal and having the gall to pretend you’re something you’re not – shocking?

 

I’m not sure where the prison of perfection, or the fear of rejection started for me. I do know they are one and the same. One leads to the other and the other back to the start.

 

I’m in my 40’s now and people said when I reached my 40’s I would be happy. I would come to a place where I wouldn’t care what other people thought and would finally embrace my true self. But with today’s social climate, I find myself more self-conscious than any other time in my life.

 

If I’m not perfect in my parenting, marriage, business, body or life- I risk rejection. Rejection from social media comments, “pointer outers” (those that love to point out other people’s faults) or even risk my business since I’m my brand. Let me repeat that-I’m my brand. Herein lies the problem.

 

Because my business is me, I feel the need to use a “filter”. Filter my mouth, my opinions, my religious beliefs, my inadequacies, and of course my photos. Who wants to hire someone who sucks?

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Easy Questionnaire to Help You Find Your “Uniquity”

 

Are you A or B?

 

  1. Do you know who you are? Do you have a clear direction of where your life is headed? Do you wake up each morning knowing your life “plan” or “purpose”, which allows you to overcome difficult obstacles? Do you know what calms you down when you are stressed? Do you know what makes you happy?
  2. Do you feel clouded, confused, burnt out, or that you’re simply floating or surviving through life?

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The Art of the Speaker Soft Sell: How to Get the Click Without (Really) Asking for It

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We’ve all seen those old-style sales pages filled with yellow highlights and screaming red text and lots of “BUY NOW” buttons, and when we think of copywriting, that’s often what comes to mind. While that style of sales page can be effective, it’s not the only way to make sales.

 

In fact, by taking a more subtle approach, you might even find that you generate more interest—and potentially more sales.

Stories Sell

One effective way to entice readers to click through to your sales page is the same as when you are on stage- with stories.

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5 Huge Mistakes Professional Speakers Make on Stage from an Actor’s Perspective

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I stumbled into becoming a funny speaker by complete accident. I have learned A LOT along the way. What I learned-I actually already knew. Let me explain:

I have a degree in theatre. What I learned and even taught when it came to theatre/acting performance, audience, communication, messaging, etc., has translated perfectly to the speaking world. All the rules seem to hold true for either mode of communication-acting or speaking.

It’s taken making a whole lot of mistakes and performing a loooot of really tough gigs to finally embrace who I am. I’m a performer with a message.

 

I’ve done free speaking gigs, drove hours for almost no-paying gigs, done back alley gigs, comedy gigs, county fair gigs, festival gigs. My cars broke down. Someone slipped something in my drink the last comedy club I performed at. I’ve traveled 12 hours one way to have the company never pay me. Been snowed in, iced in, dust-stormed in. (I choked on-stage during the dust storm-literally. I coughed and gagged on the dirt so much, I had to walk off after only 8 minutes.) I’ve bombed on stage. I’ve killed it-and a whole lot of in-between.

Now that you know some of my creds-here’s some huge mistakes from an actor’s perspective, I see other speakers make on stage. I’ve done several of these myself.

 

  1. Not Thinking from the Audience’s Perspective

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How to Write Your Blog When You Don’t “Feel” Like It

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Let me know when you figure it out, because this blog posts shows I haven’t.

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Stacy Pederson is a funny motivational speaker…which is ironic when it comes to motivation. When Stacy’s not blogging, she can be found in Colorado overeating, sleeping and feeling guilty about all of it. You can learn more about her dysfunction at: StacyPederson.com.

Should Professional Speakers Speak for You for Free

Maybe.

If you’re looking for someone to fill a slot for your event, that has interesting content and can be delivered in a presentable way- that’s not too flashy, there are LOOOOTS of speakers out there. You know this, as you may have been hit up by a few…gajillion of them.

If you’re looking to up the game a little for your event, here’s a few ways you know whether or not you should pay.

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What to Do if You’re About to Lose Everything

With over a 90% failure rate in business, it’s hard for me to believe there’s not a slew of people out there feeling desperate…and scared that they’re about to “lose everything”.

First, if you are one of them, I want to say that I am truly sorry you are going through this. It’s no fun. It hurts. It’s scary. BUT, my goal by the end of this article is to give you a little glimmer of hope.

I’ve lost it all. Well, almost. I’ve never lost my kids and for that I’m eternally grateful. I’ve lost my 1st marriage, my home, my job, my health, my ability to walk, my friends, and for a time-I felt like I lost my sanity.  Continue reading “What to Do if You’re About to Lose Everything”

Making the Most of Your Time: 5 Productivity Tips Top Professional Speakers Live By

It’s not enough to dream of success as a professional speaker. It’s not even enough to set goals.

The only way to truly achieve your dreams and build the business you’re meant to build is to sit down and just do it. And that sucks

And that’s where many of us…well, fail is a strong word. But it’s the doing that trips us up more times than not. As in me. I fall flat a lot when it comes to the doing.

We (as in I) overbook our calendars until today’s to-dos become next week’s past dues. We procrastinate on the things that are important while attending to things that are merely “nice to do.” And sometimes we simply take on too much—even when we know better.

The answer? Embrace these five productivity hacks that top professional speakers use to get more done in less time.

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Stop Being Your Own Worst Co-Worker/ Boss

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Have you ever worked with someone who consistently failed to complete her tasks for the week?

-She couldn’t find the time to get her email opt-in page completed?

-She was too busy to write the next chapter of her book?

-She was working too hard and completely forgot to put together her webinar presentation?

It wouldn’t take long before you sat her down for a serious talk about the future of your working relationship—and her business?

-Even worse- have you ever had a boss or co-worker who slept in and showed up shockingly late as if it were no big deal?

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