Because I Have it all Together, and Other Lies I Want You to Believe About Me

Dear Work: 10 Things I Hate About You

 

1. You Always Make Me Feel Guilty. Other people seem to really like you a lot better than me. You’re all they ever talk about. You’re what they leap out of bed for in the morning and the last thing they think of before they fall asleep. I don’t leap out of bed for any reason and you are THE reason I can’t sleep. People seem to love you, but, truthfully, sometimes I can’t stand the thought of you. That makes me feel like a really bad person and, thus, I feel guilty.

2. You’re Really Controlling Over My Time. Somedays I want to do what I want to do when I want to do it. You, on the other hand, expect me to be there on the times you dictate. I have to live my whole life wrapped around your time frame. THEN when you give me two weeks off, you act like I should be grateful. 2 weeks! I think our relationship should be flipped. I work the times I want to work, but then 2 weeks out of the year, I’ll work when you need me to. Deal?

3. You Don’t Respect My Boundaries. When I’m out with my friends or spending time with my family, you’re constantly e-mailing, calling, messaging, or texting me. I’ve talked to me about not letting myself fall into your trap, but I don’t listen to myself. I don’t respect my boundaries just like you don’t respect my boundaries and that’s why we both make me miserable.

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A Christmas Wish

As a funny female speaker, I get to perform a lot, but it’s always so wonderful to have the opportunity to go back to my acting “roots”. I was very thankful to be a part of this project. I believe in the message.

 

Generation X- #Funny Video by Keynote Speaker Stacy Pederson

Generation X…Who?? A funny video on “Generation X-The Forgotten Middle Child”. #workplace issues by Humorist Keynote Speaker, Stacy Pederson.

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Funny Video for Work-from-Home Moms by Humorist Keynote Speaker Stacy Pederson

If you are a work-at-home Mom or Mompreneur-there’s a good chance you know ALL ABOUT, the “Note Under the Door”. Funny Video from Keynote Speaker, Stacy Pederson.

Filmed at “Ambitious Women’s Conference” in Dallas, TX, 2017.

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Every Mom on Vacation Ever-Funny Video for Moms

Do your kids fight? As a mom, did you dream that this year’s summer vacation was going to be the best ever?

Now that “summer” has officially ended according to the school system, I can show my true colors about me as a Mom on vacation. I have a feeling, I’m not the only one….

“Every Mom on Vacation-Ever”

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How to Be Happy- Dealing With People Who Are Condescending

Do you have someone in you’re life who you’re never quit sure if they’re being naughty or nice? Someone who says potentially hurtful things in such a polite, smiley way, you can’t tell if they’re being genuinely helpful or hurtful? If they’re being condescending or giving a compliment? Do you ever have that moment where you’re taken aback because you honestly don’t know how to take what was just said?

I do. I’ve never been quick on my feet when it comes to people’s intentions. I tend to see people through a positive lens. Sometimes it’s YEARS later before I finally come to the recognition-that  person was actually being a jerk. What!!??

Perhaps it’s a blessing I’m slow on the uptake. Why? I’m even slower in the moment with a comeback. I’m one of those who, months later at 2 a.m., my head pops of the pillow with the most brilliant reply. Then I have what I call my “Comeback Fantasy” where I get to visualize the entire conversation with me saying what I wish I could have said. And-not to brag or anything-but in my fantasy-I’m freakin’ brilliant.

So what do you do when you have one of those condescending people in your life (assuming you’re forced to be around them by blood, business, or your other BFF’s).

Keep Calm-Smile On: 

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If You Are Not Incorporating These Into Your Speech – You Are Losing Your Audience

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“Hi. My name is Stacy Pederson and I’m falling off my stool. Let me sit up straight. All right, that’s a fabulous intro. But my name is Stacy Pederson and I’m a funny speaker, a clean comedian, and acting and speech coach. Today, I want to share with you learning styles. What is learning styles? We all learn certain things different ways and how I discovered this was I used to teach children acting. I created curriculum for an acting school that I co-founded. Then I also was involved in children’s ministry for many years and I wrote a lot of the curriculum for that. I discovered that there’s really three specific learning styles of how we can take in information and retain it.

You’ve probably heard of it, but just in case you haven’t there’s auditory learners, which is listening, there is visual learners, which is seeing, and then there is kinesthetic learners, which is kind of a tactile, you have to move, you have to be doing something in order to retain information. So for you, if you recognize that you fidget a lot, that’s me, I’m very kinesthetic, if you have to write certain things down or you won’t remember even if you never looked at your notes again, or you got to move like pace in some way in order to retain information, you’re kinesthetic.

If you need to see something visual like you’re listening to the radio and you have a really hard time paying attention, podcast, things like that, are not your thing you either need to read the book or you need to see the video. You need PowerPoint slides to be able to retain the message, then you’re visual. Then if you love listening to podcasts and anything that doesn’t require you to move, or you can totally track with a speaker without even really needing to see them, there’s a good chance you’re auditory. A lot of people make the mistake when they give speeches and really just focusing on the auditory with an occasional PowerPoint slide. I have a really hard time. I’m totally ADD, if I was gonna be honest.

So for me, I have such a hard time paying attention especially if it’s anything longer than 20 minutes. That’s the average attention span, really, is they it’s 20 minutes, but it’s actually shortening with each of the generation’s coming up younger and younger. So if you’re gonna be talking for 25, like a Ted Talk, or 60 or a 90-minute keynote or presentation, you’re gonna lose a lot of people in the room if you don’t switch up your learning styles. So do your PowerPoints help? Absolutely. PowerPoint slides can help as long as they’re not super boring and it’s just words on the screen reiterating what you just said. If your PowerPoint slides are nothing but bullet points it’s not helping. You’re gonna want to think outside that PowerPoint box and come up with something visual.

If that’s not something that comes easy to you then I recommend hiring someone or asking just someone that you work with or someone you know that’s a little more creative, that’s a little more in tuned to visual arts then I would ask their opinion and their help because something like a really powerful image can really stick in the minds of the visual learner. That’s something that they’ll walk away with, remembering that particular image and that’s how they’ll remember your takeaway point is because of the visual you gave them, not just words on a screen. That also comes into play if you should choose to use props.

Props are something that you have on the stage that you either hold in your hand, that would be called a personal prop, or that you can use to demonstrate a visual with that helps share the story, that helps bring home the point. Basically, to be used as a metaphor. That can help visual learners as well. For tactile learners, this is where group engagement can help where you have them break apart and discuss around their tables because they’re actually get to move a little bit. Taking notes, a lot of people don’t take notes anymore because they’re typing either on their phone or their iPad. But it actually requires the handwriting to be able to retain some of that. So this is just one of the things I’ve been using in one of my recent talks about …

One of my talks is that how to be happy when your life is a mess. One of the key elements of being happy when your life is a mess is something called flow. So what I did was I just came up with this think business card. As you can see, this is the back. Then when you flip it over it just says it’s always a good idea, which I think on this screen it’s gonna read backwards. But basically through this exercise that I tell them they have to write something down that is always a good idea for them to engage in when they’re struggling. So it would be like go for a hike or play a sport or you know, pull out a musical instrument. It’s always a good idea. But it’s the actual act of writing that helps those kinesthetic learners take the point home.

How I know this works is I just gave a speech … Well, I gave two speeches this week and both times I had a couple people come up to me and say, “Wow, that card,” and that’s what they talked about. That was their takeaway and how they were gonna keep it. I knew that they is a really good chance they were kinesthetic learners because they didn’t talk about any of the other stuff. They didn’t talk about the visuals, the logos, the images, or any of the other stuff. So that’s something that you’re always gonna want to incorporate is are you hitting those three learning styles. If you’re not and you’re just focusing on auditory then you’re losing 70% of the room sometimes. So you’re gonna really want to pay attention to that.

Again, my name is Stacy Pederson. You are welcome to subscribe to my YouTube channel if you’d like to have more speaking tips if you are a sales presenter or an executive or you give speeches, deliver speeches, maybe even an author trying to get into the speaking circle. If you could follow me there or on my blog at stacypederson.com. If you’ve seen any of my other videos, you’ll hear me say, “That’s Pederson with a D.” P-E-D not Peterson. You could follow me there. I always have a link below because nobody can ever spell my name. So three learning styles, make sure you’re incorporating those. Thanks so much.

 

Why You Shouldn’t Thank People When You Stand Up to Give A Speech – Public Speaking Speech Tips

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“Hi, my name is Stacy Pederson. I am a clean comedian, a funny speaker, and an acting and speech coach. Today, I want to share with you why I think it’s a terrible idea to give a standard introduction thanking people when you first step onstage. When you first step onstage, you have eight seconds, eight seconds, to grab the audience’s attention. Then you have 30, 60, 90 seconds, three minutes, five minutes, and eight minutes. So I’m going to repeat that. It’s 30 seconds, 60 seconds, 90 seconds, three minutes, five minutes, and eight minutes, and within those standard timeframes, you need to hit certain marks or certain levels in your speech in order to not only grab your audience’s attention but to maintain it and then win them over to want to listen to you for the remainder of your speech. If you haven’t won them over by eight minutes, you’re not going to win them over pretty much guaranteed, so would you waste that first 30, 60, 90 seconds coming onstage and shuffling your papers and getting situated at the podium and then turning and thanking the person who introduced you and maybe acknowledging all the other people in the room? It’s quite boring because most people do that.

So instead, you’re going to want to walk onstage and come up with a really catchy opener for the first eight seconds, 30, 60, and then 90 seconds. I personally try and wait till the three minute mark before I loop back around to acknowledge and thank the people that have helped bring me up or the people in the room, the audience especially, I really appreciate the audience being there and being willing to give me their attention and time, so I want to draw them in as well. So always try to have some interesting, whether it’s a joke, whether it’s a funny story, but it needs to be something the audience can relate to, something unique about maybe the things that they’re eating for a meal if it happens to be over lunch or at dinner. You’re going to want to take those first 30, 60, 90 seconds to bring a surprise element. Like I said, it can be humor or funny, just something interesting, even a video, something unique or maybe a funny prop so that you catch their attention and then really after the 90 seconds, you can give the thank yous, but if you can hold out till three minutes doing something fun and unique for those first three minutes, you’ll really win that audience over. And then they’ll be ready to listen and to acknowledge the fact that you’re acknowledging them and other people in the room.

You’re welcome to follow me. I’ll have more speaking tips for any of you who give sales presentations or speeches whether that’s for a profession or you’re required to for your job, you’re welcome to subscribe to my channel. You can also follow me on my blog at stacypederson.com, that’s Pederson with a D. I have to say that every video. I’m going to have a link below, so good luck and no intros when you first come on. Don’t be boring.”

Why You Shouldn’t Use Sports Stories and Analogies in Your Speech – Speaker Public Speaking Tips

 

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“Hello, my name is Stacy Pederson. I am a clean comedian, a funny speaker, and an acting and speech coach. Today, this video is going to be geared a little bit more to men, because I’m going to be talking about a little faux pas, which is telling sports stories in your speech or sales presentation. I know, shock, right? Why would that be a bad thing? Well, most of the time, it’s not a bad thing. However, a lot of speakers, or sales presenters, kind of fall back on giving the old standard sports joke, or something new that’s trending in sports, or just that motivational sports story. And that can be great, depending on, this is the important part, who your audience is.

Number one, if you have a mixed gender audience where you have both men and women in the audience, I strongly caution against using a sports analogy. Why? Because most of us women who have sat through more than one male speaker have heard a million sports analogies, and a lot of us, not all of us, some of us really do like sports. But a lot of us don’t care. We don’t relate to, at all.

The second thing is that, even if you are in an audience that is all men, there are actually men who don’t really care too much about sports. So, after a while, when you’ve sat through a lot of speeches, or a lot of presentations, it can almost become somewhat offensive, because we’ve heard it so often. It’s such a standard go-to to bring in the sports world and the sports realm.

So, what should you do? Again, you should really know who your audience is. If you happen to be in a field where you know everyone in that room is going to love sports, then go for it. That’s fantastic. If you know a majority of the room, 75%, 85% of the people in the room who follow sports, love sports, would be very interested, would get your jokes, would get your sports analogies, again-go for it.

But, I would actually acknowledge the people, that 25% or 30%, or 15% in the room, who may not get it. Even just by a simple line saying, I know not everyone’s into sports, but I feel this fits my speech, or my point, because of x, y, and z, and lay it out, and then share your story.

And then, I would say if you have less than 75%, less than 60, less than 50, think about, you can still use a sports analogy, but bring another analogy in as well. A different metaphor, a different analogy, a different realm. No, it doesn’t have to be fashion, makeup, if you have girls in there. You don’t have to go that route. But just something that you know at least 75% of your audience can relate to.

I’ve never heard any speech coach talk about that, but I know for myself, I know from listening to other women, and from quite a few men, that it does sometimes become offensive. So, I thought I would just throw that out there, because there’s a good chance you may have never heard that at all, about why you should not, or be careful, about when you use sports analogies.

You could follow me, I have more speech tips, if you have to give sales presentations or you’re an executive, or you’re just a speaker. Just. Or you’re just a speaker. You can subscribe to my channel. You could also follow me on my blog at stacypederson.com, and that’s Pederson with a D.”

 

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How to Be Funny When Giving a Speech – Speaker Public Speaking Tips

 

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“I’m going to give you two pointers in regards to humor if you’re giving a sales presentation, giving a speech for your company, you have to stand up in front of a classroom, or you are a professional speaker looking to add some humor. The first one, and this is probably the most controversial that a lot of people may disagree with me on, but I do not believe everyone can be funny. What I mean by this is that humor requires a unique skill of timing. People either seem to have it or they don’t. It doesn’t seem to be an acquirable skill to the point of being hilariously funny.

 
Now everybody has their own unique sense of timing but there is a flow to humor, and the delivery, and the pause, and when you hit the punchline and so forth. Certain comedians have certain rhythms and other comedians have other rhythms. But again, you can hear the flow.

 
You can learn to an extent, but if you are not naturally funny, I don’t care how many classes you take, I don’t believe that you will ever truly become hilarious. My suggestion for you, if you are not naturally a funny person, is don’t try and be. You can definitely add humor and fun to your speech but you’re going to want to rely, maybe, possibly a tiny bit more, on a visual or even a video, a funny use of a prop.

 
My favorite is, if you have a signature story that you’re telling, then you are going to want one or two, or maybe three, punchlines written in somewhere into your story to make your story pop and be memorable and funny. Again, that requires a certain timing of when you should have that punchline in there.

 
The same is true with sales presentations. When you’re talking about pain points for your customers, there are certain places where there’s a nice flow and feel of when you can add a punch, one or two lines here and there, sprinkled throughout, that makes you appear funny without you having to require to have this skill of being hilarious.

 
Again, if you’re not funny, you’re going to want to find a little bit of help maybe in different areas of just sprinkling that humor, where someone help you write a couple of lines in.

 
The number two thing, and this is a shocker for a lot of people, humor is not universal. I’m going to repeat this. Humor is NOT universal. What you think is funny is not what everybody thinks is funny. Case in point, if you’ve ever gone to a comedy club, there was probably a comedian that you just thought was hysterical and then three others you didn’t think were any good. Or if you’ve ever watched Netflix comedy specials, more than one, and you’ve watched a couple and you’re like, “These people aren’t funny at all,” and then you’ve heard another one that you were just cracking up. Same with sitcoms, same with certain comedies. It’s your particular style of comedy. Because what you find funny is not what other people find funny, and vice versa.

 
There seems to be a distinct difference in humor style. I know this is politically incorrect but I’ve sat through enough audiences to know that what men find funny is different than what women find funny. Gender seems to make a difference.

 
The second is age. Age really makes a difference in the style of humor. I have found that the perfect — and I’ve heard other comedians talk about this — that the perfect age range is 10 years above and 10 years below you. It’s like a 20-year age span, and then the same gender and basically the same demographics, because humor is something that you yourself relate to that’s usually why you laugh. Because you think like that and that’s why it’s funny to you. If they’re talking about a different culture, a different lifestyle, a different age, you might find a couple of things funny but you don’t really relate in the way where you’re just busting out loud when it’s your demographic, your gender, your age. Again, highly politically incorrect but I really think there’s a lot of truth to it.

 
If you’re trying to add humor to your speech or sales presentation, be careful. Be careful that what you think is funny actually is to a majority of the audience, that you’re not coming across offensive. Because some male humor can be really offensive to women and vice versa. You’re going to want to be careful it doesn’t come across offensive, that it’s general, and that it hits pretty much the age range of whoever it is that you’re speaking to. Again, humor you could talk for hours on because it’s so complicated. Also, just reach out to somebody you know who’s funny and have them help you.”

 

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