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Why You Shouldn’t Thank People When You Stand Up to Give A Speech – Public Speaking Speech Tips

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Video Transcript:

“Hi, my name is Stacy Pederson. I am a clean comedian, a funny speaker, and an acting and speech coach. Today, I want to share with you why I think it’s a terrible idea to give a standard introduction thanking people when you first step onstage. When you first step onstage, you have eight seconds, eight seconds, to grab the audience’s attention. Then you have 30, 60, 90 seconds, three minutes, five minutes, and eight minutes. So I’m going to repeat that. It’s 30 seconds, 60 seconds, 90 seconds, three minutes, five minutes, and eight minutes, and within those standard timeframes, you need to hit certain marks or certain levels in your speech in order to not only grab your audience’s attention but to maintain it and then win them over to want to listen to you for the remainder of your speech. If you haven’t won them over by eight minutes, you’re not going to win them over pretty much guaranteed, so would you waste that first 30, 60, 90 seconds coming onstage and shuffling your papers and getting situated at the podium and then turning and thanking the person who introduced you and maybe acknowledging all the other people in the room? It’s quite boring because most people do that.

So instead, you’re going to want to walk onstage and come up with a really catchy opener for the first eight seconds, 30, 60, and then 90 seconds. I personally try and wait till the three minute mark before I loop back around to acknowledge and thank the people that have helped bring me up or the people in the room, the audience especially, I really appreciate the audience being there and being willing to give me their attention and time, so I want to draw them in as well. So always try to have some interesting, whether it’s a joke, whether it’s a funny story, but it needs to be something the audience can relate to, something unique about maybe the things that they’re eating for a meal if it happens to be over lunch or at dinner. You’re going to want to take those first 30, 60, 90 seconds to bring a surprise element. Like I said, it can be humor or funny, just something interesting, even a video, something unique or maybe a funny prop so that you catch their attention and then really after the 90 seconds, you can give the thank yous, but if you can hold out till three minutes doing something fun and unique for those first three minutes, you’ll really win that audience over. And then they’ll be ready to listen and to acknowledge the fact that you’re acknowledging them and other people in the room.

You’re welcome to follow me. I’ll have more speaking tips for any of you who give sales presentations or speeches whether that’s for a profession or you’re required to for your job, you’re welcome to subscribe to my channel. You can also follow me on my blog at stacypederson.com, that’s Pederson with a D. I have to say that every video. I’m going to have a link below, so good luck and no intros when you first come on. Don’t be boring.”

Why You Shouldn’t Use Sports Stories and Analogies in Your Speech – Speaker Public Speaking Tips

 

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“Hello, my name is Stacy Pederson. I am a clean comedian, a funny speaker, and an acting and speech coach. Today, this video is going to be geared a little bit more to men, because I’m going to be talking about a little faux pas, which is telling sports stories in your speech or sales presentation. I know, shock, right? Why would that be a bad thing? Well, most of the time, it’s not a bad thing. However, a lot of speakers, or sales presenters, kind of fall back on giving the old standard sports joke, or something new that’s trending in sports, or just that motivational sports story. And that can be great, depending on, this is the important part, who your audience is.

Number one, if you have a mixed gender audience where you have both men and women in the audience, I strongly caution against using a sports analogy. Why? Because most of us women who have sat through more than one male speaker have heard a million sports analogies, and a lot of us, not all of us, some of us really do like sports. But a lot of us don’t care. We don’t relate to, at all.

The second thing is that, even if you are in an audience that is all men, there are actually men who don’t really care too much about sports. So, after a while, when you’ve sat through a lot of speeches, or a lot of presentations, it can almost become somewhat offensive, because we’ve heard it so often. It’s such a standard go-to to bring in the sports world and the sports realm.

So, what should you do? Again, you should really know who your audience is. If you happen to be in a field where you know everyone in that room is going to love sports, then go for it. That’s fantastic. If you know a majority of the room, 75%, 85% of the people in the room who follow sports, love sports, would be very interested, would get your jokes, would get your sports analogies, again-go for it.

But, I would actually acknowledge the people, that 25% or 30%, or 15% in the room, who may not get it. Even just by a simple line saying, I know not everyone’s into sports, but I feel this fits my speech, or my point, because of x, y, and z, and lay it out, and then share your story.

And then, I would say if you have less than 75%, less than 60, less than 50, think about, you can still use a sports analogy, but bring another analogy in as well. A different metaphor, a different analogy, a different realm. No, it doesn’t have to be fashion, makeup, if you have girls in there. You don’t have to go that route. But just something that you know at least 75% of your audience can relate to.

I’ve never heard any speech coach talk about that, but I know for myself, I know from listening to other women, and from quite a few men, that it does sometimes become offensive. So, I thought I would just throw that out there, because there’s a good chance you may have never heard that at all, about why you should not, or be careful, about when you use sports analogies.

You could follow me, I have more speech tips, if you have to give sales presentations or you’re an executive, or you’re just a speaker. Just. Or you’re just a speaker. You can subscribe to my channel. You could also follow me on my blog at stacypederson.com, and that’s Pederson with a D.”

 

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How to Be Funny When Giving a Speech – Speaker Public Speaking Tips

 

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“I’m going to give you two pointers in regards to humor if you’re giving a sales presentation, giving a speech for your company, you have to stand up in front of a classroom, or you are a professional speaker looking to add some humor. The first one, and this is probably the most controversial that a lot of people may disagree with me on, but I do not believe everyone can be funny. What I mean by this is that humor requires a unique skill of timing. People either seem to have it or they don’t. It doesn’t seem to be an acquirable skill to the point of being hilariously funny.

 
Now everybody has their own unique sense of timing but there is a flow to humor, and the delivery, and the pause, and when you hit the punchline and so forth. Certain comedians have certain rhythms and other comedians have other rhythms. But again, you can hear the flow.

 
You can learn to an extent, but if you are not naturally funny, I don’t care how many classes you take, I don’t believe that you will ever truly become hilarious. My suggestion for you, if you are not naturally a funny person, is don’t try and be. You can definitely add humor and fun to your speech but you’re going to want to rely, maybe, possibly a tiny bit more, on a visual or even a video, a funny use of a prop.

 
My favorite is, if you have a signature story that you’re telling, then you are going to want one or two, or maybe three, punchlines written in somewhere into your story to make your story pop and be memorable and funny. Again, that requires a certain timing of when you should have that punchline in there.

 
The same is true with sales presentations. When you’re talking about pain points for your customers, there are certain places where there’s a nice flow and feel of when you can add a punch, one or two lines here and there, sprinkled throughout, that makes you appear funny without you having to require to have this skill of being hilarious.

 
Again, if you’re not funny, you’re going to want to find a little bit of help maybe in different areas of just sprinkling that humor, where someone help you write a couple of lines in.

 
The number two thing, and this is a shocker for a lot of people, humor is not universal. I’m going to repeat this. Humor is NOT universal. What you think is funny is not what everybody thinks is funny. Case in point, if you’ve ever gone to a comedy club, there was probably a comedian that you just thought was hysterical and then three others you didn’t think were any good. Or if you’ve ever watched Netflix comedy specials, more than one, and you’ve watched a couple and you’re like, “These people aren’t funny at all,” and then you’ve heard another one that you were just cracking up. Same with sitcoms, same with certain comedies. It’s your particular style of comedy. Because what you find funny is not what other people find funny, and vice versa.

 
There seems to be a distinct difference in humor style. I know this is politically incorrect but I’ve sat through enough audiences to know that what men find funny is different than what women find funny. Gender seems to make a difference.

 
The second is age. Age really makes a difference in the style of humor. I have found that the perfect — and I’ve heard other comedians talk about this — that the perfect age range is 10 years above and 10 years below you. It’s like a 20-year age span, and then the same gender and basically the same demographics, because humor is something that you yourself relate to that’s usually why you laugh. Because you think like that and that’s why it’s funny to you. If they’re talking about a different culture, a different lifestyle, a different age, you might find a couple of things funny but you don’t really relate in the way where you’re just busting out loud when it’s your demographic, your gender, your age. Again, highly politically incorrect but I really think there’s a lot of truth to it.

 
If you’re trying to add humor to your speech or sales presentation, be careful. Be careful that what you think is funny actually is to a majority of the audience, that you’re not coming across offensive. Because some male humor can be really offensive to women and vice versa. You’re going to want to be careful it doesn’t come across offensive, that it’s general, and that it hits pretty much the age range of whoever it is that you’re speaking to. Again, humor you could talk for hours on because it’s so complicated. Also, just reach out to somebody you know who’s funny and have them help you.”

 

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How to Be Happy: What to Do When You Dwell in the Grey

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She had two white plastic lawn chairs, a large steel pot, one mattress wet from the rain, an orange bucket, and one remarkable painting. I was nervous. I’d never been in someone’s home where I couldn’t speak the language. My friend, who was semi-fluent, sat and spoke with her. As they conversed, my eyes darted around her home.  My eyes fell to the large gaps in the floor where water, mice and any other sort of varmint could run freely in and out. There were missing cinder blocks where the tin ceiling attached to the walls allowing rain and wind to blow in. Several of her children sat politely on the wet mattress on the floor. They were sporting their bright yellow Vacation Bible School t-shirts they had worn faithfully for three days in a row. The orange bucket sat in the corner. I knew the bucket was used for bathing, as I had seen several children being scrubbed down, underwear and all, while standing inside a small plastic bucket of their own.

In stark contrast, above the white lawn chair, hung one remarkable painting. It was at odds with the rest of the scene. Brilliant colors, fine details, an expression of class and beauty.

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How to Be Happy: How to Open a Pickle Jar Without Losing Your ”Grip”

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I’m in sunny Glendale, CA right now-LIVING IT UP- by staying locked inside hunkered over my computer. (This is what “success” supposedly looks like…or so I’ve been told.)

I broke away to head out into the great big yonder and meandered into an Armenian grocery store filled with treats and wonders. There, in the back of the store, the large industrial refrigerator doors parted and revealed an enormous  hunk of Italian salami-all natural mind you-for a shockingly low price-(much like my performance/speaker fee right now). Being Italian, my mouth watered as I saw it lying there under a heavenly fluorescent halo. I snagged it, AND on the way out-snagged a jar of pickles. Every Italian knows salami needs friends. Cheese, crackers or bread, and olives or pickles. Everything else is optional.

I raced home, yelled obscenities at my diet who was pounding on my locked kitchen door, and tore into the salami wrapper. I stopped short of ripping a hunk off with my teeth-because I needed a pickle. Apparently, the pickles didn’t feel the same way about me.

For the next 40+ minutes I fought with a jar of pickles. Now, I wish I was making this up. Especially since I read daily on “productivity hacks” and “staying focused”…because I have a slight problem with that….

At first, I did the usual pickle jar opening tricks:

1. I looked around for a male with huge arm muscles. Jeff was at work-so that led me to “How to Open a Pickle Jar” option #2.

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How to Be Happy-Are Other People More Successful Than You?

“The grass isn’t greener on the other side. The grass is greener where you water it.” 

Are other people more successful than you? When you look on social media, do other people’s lives appear better than yours? Do people seem more successful, beautiful, happier, healthier or prosperous than you?

I heard a fabulous quote recently by Neil Barringham. “The grass isn’t greener on the other side. The grass is greener where you water it.” I LOVE this quote!!

This quote, “The grass isn’t greener on the other side, the grass is greener where you water it”, has the ability to help you live a happier life in 3 ways:

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Top 19 Confusing “Motivational” Quotes / Tweets to Mess With Your Followers

 

Seems everyone has an Inspirational / Motivational quote they plaster all over their social media. Have you ever read a motivational quote that made absolutely no sense? 

I had to get in on the fun.

Here’s 19 “Motivational” / “Inspirational” quotes you can use just to mess with your followers: …(Why 19? Just to mess with those of you who need it to be 20…)

 

 

 

“LOVE is a 4 letter word that spells ‘LOVE'”

 

“My Darkest Hour is When it Dawned on Me I Had Been Kept in the Dark.”

 

“Tomorrow is another day. Different than today. Tomorrow will become today and today yesterday…don’t worry about that part.”

 

“Live everyday as if it were your last-because-if I had it my way it would be.”

 

“Failing forward gives you momentum-even though it’s face down.”

 

“Whoever laughs at you when you fall, is probable a PE teacher.”

“A journey of 1000 miles begins with a single tweet or snapchat post.”

 

 

“Dance as if everyone’s drinking.”

 

Enjoy the little things in life because, if you’re a millennial, it’s probably all you can afford.”

“Perfection is only a path mediocre people take. Perfect people don’t need a path.”

 

“Be yourself…only better.”

 

“Success does not come from winning. It comes from really good P.R.”

 

“Keep your chin up, your head held high, and your best foot forward. It makes you look better in your pics.”

“Happiness comes when your automatic deposit is no longer pending.”

 

“Life is like football. It requires hard work, sacrifice, dedication, and an occasional $20 million contract.”

“Only losers understand the true value of a win.”

 

“I have found if you genuinely love life-you’re a little off.”

 

“To live is to let go. So hold on tight to your dreams.”

 

“Beware of a man who is charming. Charm is spelled ‘C-Harm'”.

 

Stacy Pederson is a Colorado based Humorist and Funny Motivational Speaker who is incessantly insecure with a chronic Thai Food / Netflix binge habit.

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The God I Once Knew was the God in “The Shack” Before Everyone Told Me I was Wrong

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I have joy because God met me in a cold, dark, broken place. I was not love-able and I did not love Him.

I was tired today. With Jeff working out of state and the kids away, I wanted something different than the usual “song, announcement, 3 songs, sermon, closing song” Sunday. So I threw on a ratty sweatshirt, dark glasses with very little make up on, and went to see the movie, “The Shack”. Not having read the book, it was mostly out of curiosity to see what all the controversy around the book and film was about. As the film progressed, I sat in the theatre sobbing to the point of embarrassment-because I knew that God. That was the God I used to know-the God in that shack-before everyone told me I was wrong.

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How to Be Happy: What Happiness Truly Is – WARNING – You’re Not Going to Like It

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What would it take to make you happy? For you to ultimately find true happiness? A million dollars? A different job? A skinnier body? A better spouse? Everyone to stop bothering you? (Which brings me back to a different job and a better spouse…)

 

Are you trapped into thinking your unhappiness is a direct result of your life being a struggle, a disappointment, a chaotic mess?

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